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Part One
Part Two
Age 17
It's been a frigid January and Dad just got out of
the hospital. THIS IS NOTHING
NEW. HE HAS BEEN IN AND OUT OF THE
HOSPITAL FOR YEARS. The most
recent visit was complications from his blood disorder. It's a Friday and when I get home from school,
Dad is in his bedroom lying
down.
This is a rare moment for
me because he's in tears. Years of being
yelled at and seeing him sick have desensitized me to his pain. I left the house to go to my friend's house.
Later
that night Mom called me and he
was back in the hospital. They were
transferring him to the Cleveland Clinic.
After
school, the next week, Mom, my sister, and I head up to see Dad. Everything
feels different this time around. When
we walk into the room, he's talking loudly and he barely recognizes us. He wasn't incoherent enough to get into a
spat with my Mom. We say our goodbyes and our "I love
yous" and make our way home. It's a
long drive.
It's
the last week before the end of the second nine weeks and I'm in my psychology
class. I'm not social at school and
mostly keep to myself. There's a girl in
my class named Holly and she is telling people I once glued my hand to a desk
at Sunday school. This is not something
I remember doing and I probably would remember if I had. She must be bored if she has to make up
rumors about me. The bell rings and I
make my way to English class, which is conveniently in the next classroom
over. A second bell rings letting us
know that class is set to begin and my teacher gets a phone call. In the past, I've always wished the phone
calls were for me so I could get out of class.
This time I knew it was my name called.
Mr. Bolton says, "Thomas, you need to go to the office, bring your
books." The office is a football field's
length down the hall from the classroom.
I see my sister standing outside the office.
She's the only
person in the hallway and she has tears in her eyes.
We
left my truck at school and headed to my sister's apartment to grab a few
things. She recently found out that
she's pregnant. On our way, a song
starts playing. My sister tells me that
I used to sing the song with Dad all the time.
The song doesn't ring a bell.
It's nothing popular but oddly enough, it's on the radio.
"I'm just an ordinary average guy
My friends are all boring
And so am I
My friends are all boring
And so am I
We're just ordinary average guys
We all live ordinary average lives
With average kids
And average wives
We all go bowling at the bowling lanes
Drink a few beers
Bowl a few frames
We're just ordinary average guys
Ordinary average guys
And every Saturday we work in the yard
Pick up the dog do
Hope that it's hard (woof woof)
Take out the garbage and clean out the garage
My friend's got a Chrysler
I've got a Dodge
We're just ordinary average guys
Ordinary average guys
Ordinary average guy
Ordinary average guy
Ordinary average guy
Ordinary average average guys"
We all live ordinary average lives
With average kids
And average wives
We all go bowling at the bowling lanes
Drink a few beers
Bowl a few frames
We're just ordinary average guys
Ordinary average guys
And every Saturday we work in the yard
Pick up the dog do
Hope that it's hard (woof woof)
Take out the garbage and clean out the garage
My friend's got a Chrysler
I've got a Dodge
We're just ordinary average guys
Ordinary average guys
Ordinary average guy
Ordinary average guy
Ordinary average guy
Ordinary average average guys"
"Ordinary Average Guy" - Joe
Walsh
She proceeds to tell me that I don't remember
anything from my childhood. Maybe I did glue my hand to a
table.
Mom was already at the hospital with all of our extended
family. Immediate family came down to Massillon in the past, but since we were in Cleveland, around extended
family, the whole pack was there. The
doctor says that overnight my dad had a heart attack and his kidneys
failed. If he came out, he would have
little brain activity. The doctor called
Mom, my sister, and
me into a separate room to ask us what we wanted to do. A miracle happened before, let's try for
another one. There was nothing more we
could do that day but wait. We went home
with assurance from the doctors that they would call us if anything
changed. Mom dropped
me off at school for my truck. This
truck is almost as old as I am. Dad always wanted a truck and this
is the one he bought. A rusty, dinged
up, black and red 1988 Chevy S-10. I
hope it starts.
It's
the middle of the night and someone wakes me up. Everything is a blur but now I'm in my Mom's car. I look out the window and we're on a small
highway. The car temporarily illuminates
under each highway light. Mom is speeding. Forty-five minutes pass and we get off the
highway in East Cleveland. This isn't the best place for a family to be
in the twilight hours. A police officer
pulls us over and Mom goes over the edge.
The officer approaches the window to hear Mom say "Its three in the morning, I have two kids
with me, and my husband is dying. I have
to go." He let's us go without a
ticket or a warning.
The
three of us make it to the hospital in time to see Dad's last breath.
Aimee, our
soon-to-be two-year-old Savannah, and I head out for
a walk. It's early September. Aimee is nine months pregnant and isn't enjoying this
family bonding time. She's out here
because she has an ulterior motive: get this kid out of me. I'm making up the route as I go and we take a
left turn towards a hill. At this point,
of our walk, it's been less than a quarter mile but beads of sweat already
start forming on our brows. Savannah
is chilling out in her stroller. The
final tally of our walk is two miles. No
new baby.
A
few weeks later Aimee
has a check up with her doctor and I tell her to bring the hospital bag we
packed. Just in case. She's skeptical. Weeks of trying to induce labor will do that
to a person. After much prodding, she
caves and brings the bag. Right before
lunch Aimee
calls me. It's go time but first I have
to stop home to lock the door. Apparently,
I'm not as prepared as I thought.
Driving
home, I ran into road construction and a woman
flagging traffic through. I never
thought I'd have to use this line but I call her over to my car.
"My
wife is pregnant and I need to get to the hospital!"
She doesn't care about by my
plea. This always worked on TV. I don't know the backstreets of the
neighborhood I was in but I decided to try my luck anyhow. By the time I made it out of construction the
car that was behind me in line went by.
I turned my head in the opposite direction so I didn't see their
face. I don’t want to see any grins.
Aimee, my mother in law, and Savannah are waiting for me in the room and
a small light on the bottom of the wall amazes Savannah.
Aimee's aunt arrives and
I transfer Savannah's car seat, bag of clothes, and a jug of whole milk
from our car to her Aunt's SUV. She
takes Savannah
to her house for a sleepover. After she
leaves more family files in sister in law, father in law, and Mom. It was nice having everyone there to share
the moment. Almost two years ago, when Savannah
was born, there was a swine flu epidemic and no more than two people could be
in the delivery room before delivery. No
one under the age of seventeen was allowed in the maternity ward, period. This upset Aimee and her sister because her sister was only sixteen
at the time. She was afraid she wouldn't
be able to see her first niece. These
guidelines weren't strictly enforced by the nursing staff because our nurse
told us to have her come up after delivery.
Within
a few hours of Aimee's
arrival, she was ready for labor. The
second time around seemed much easier than the first. Our first time Aimee had to remind me to breathe because I held my
breath on every push. No such problem
the second go around. Addison, like Savannah, is perfect.
Very good - a lot has happened in your 25 years. Congratulations on your little girls!
ReplyDeleteWhat are you studying at school?
I'm about 15 credits into my degree so right now I'm knocking out gen eds. I'm leaning towards sports ministry but I've enjoyed writing.
DeleteI'm always hesitant to tell people what my degree is because I work in the business world where everyone is getting their degree in business. I have nothing against people pursuing a business degree but I'd go mad. If I'm devoting a good chunk of time to school I want it to be something I enjoy.
*steps off soap box*